Writing your own wedding vow is a great way to personalize your own wedding ceremony. But there is few hindrances that have to be overcome when you want to write an excellent wedding vow like fear of embarrassing yourself, and do not have any idea how to transform your heavy, life-altering, feelings into a string of coherent words. Here are some tips that hopefully can make you breath easier.

Clear the path
First thing first, it is important to have a clearance from your officiant to have personalized vows. Catholic and Episcopal congregations, may require you to recite all or part of the traditional vows, though in most cases that’s left to the officiant’s discretion. The officiant needs to review your words in advance.

Do make a plan
Putting you and your fiancée on the same page are important, plan ahead with your partner how to make the wedding vow whether you each going to write your own, or will you write them together? Will you show them to each other before the ceremony?

Prepare your outline
An outline can be a great in writing your wedding vow, it provides a glimpse on how the wedding vow will turn out and it also provides a structure that you both stick to. For instance, plan to first talk about how great your fiance is, then about how great you are as a couple, then about what you’re vowing to each other.

Decide your style
Decide what style do you want and best to represent you: Humorous and touching? Poetic and straight to the point? The most important thing is that your vows ring true and sound like they’re from your heart.

Make it short
Finally, pick a length and stick to it. No matter how romantic and poetic your vow is, a vow that is longer than a minute or so, will make audience start to squirm.